The majority of the younger kids in our society are not very kid like in my perspective. I hear them curse as if they are adults. I also hear them talk about things kids do not need to know about. When i see kids like that it shows me thier parenting is slacking or is not aware of it. Kids act out and speak about what they observe. If a child is in a house with adults drinking and talking about grown things. The child is going to hear that and talk the way the adults to. So parents need to keep thier child from bad company. If the parent is going to do a grown thing, they need to do it when the child is no where around or is sleep in thier room. Parents need to know that thier kid is very smart and pick up on things they dont think a child would pick up. its the small things that will effect the child. A parents needs to teach thier child to have respect for others at a young age so as they grow older they will have respect to others and know how to act at different locations. A parent need to teach thier child whats right from wrong and when they do wrong, it is the parents who needs to teach them a lesson so the child doesnt do it again. This is where parents go wrong and as they get older, the child feels like they dont need to listen to thier parent and they can do what they want. Basically a parents actions wil effect a child for the rest of thier life.
Instead of beating a child, (which helps sometimes) parents need to find an alternative. When a child does something wrong, make them do something they dont like so before they act, they will think about what they had to do when they got in trouble for doing that. For example my nephews teacher called my sister and told her that my nephew is always distrubting the class by getting up to sharpen the pencil when he is not suppose to (Remind you my nephew goes to school with sharp pencils all the time). So this has been going on for a while and she talked to him about it but obviously he doesnt know how to listen. That same day when he got home she whipped him and made him write until the pencil became small. He had to do that for a week while he brothers went outside to play. This shows how my sister used what he did wrong as a punishment to himself. Another example is when a child writes all over the walls. When they dont listen, the parent should make them write on paper and make them clean the walls for maybe 2 days or a week. Personally i would make the child write again on the wall and clean it and continue to do so until they get the point. beating your children dont always help. It can lead to abuse and there will be a time where the child doesnt feel scared anymore from the beatens and thats when it leads to the child doing what ever they want.
Parents NEED to show thier child love. With out love the child acts out and its not healthy because as they get older they will look for the attention is ways that can harm them. Love is like watering a garden. It makes a child happy. I feel parents should listen to thier child because there are times where children speak and parents go uh huh yeah ok i see. They dont conversate with them and that effects them on the low. It may not be a hug thing to a parent but it is very essential. There is nothing wrong with showing love to a child. play with them. It brings more connection between the two.
The bestest thing about the way i was raised is that i need to earn what i get. When ever i was bad i wouldnt get what i wanted to that made me be good and i was able tp get good things. (things i wanted). not only did they teach me that, my mother would give me a look, instead of hit me when i did something wrong. when she gave me thag look i just stopped doing the bad things because that look is no joke. She taught me to be respectful and told me how i need to act when im not around her. She did very good in pareanting me.
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